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When I am against interracial couples…

Posted in Relationships with tags , , , , , on June 24, 2013 by oneagainstdumb

I know. This is a pretty controversial topic, especially for my second post. But before everyone shouts me down for being an old time racist living in the past, please allow me to explain myself. Let’s start from the beginning.

When I was growing up in the eighties, most of the couples I knew were of the same race. Asian people dated Asians. White people dated Whites. Black people dated Black people, and so on and so on. In fact, the first interracial couple I actually met was my friend’s parents while I was attending the seventh grade. I didn’t know at the time why people stuck to their own race. We had girls of different ethnicities in my class, and I wanted to have sex with all of them (well not every one, but you get the idea). And if you think it is strange for a twelve year old boy to feel sexual desires, then I guess my entire class was odd because we would all talk about it. Then one day I saw a White man with an Asian women. The sight made me happy because I felt that the racial barriers were coming down. People no longer were confining themselves to those of the same race, the way I thought it should be. As the years went by, I saw more interracial couples, specifically White men with Asian women, but didn’t think much of it. Then something peculiar started to happen. I began meeting Asian women who told me they would only date White men. When I turned to online dating, I came across Asian women who would only list “White” as their ideal match. Some even wrote in their profile that they were only attracted to White men and that Asian men need not apply. One even put laughs after making a similar remark as if the statement was a cute little joke.

How did this happen? Well, the portrayal of Asian men in television and movies as dorky, weak, obedient, nerds couldn’t have helped. Don’t even get me started on Ken Jeong’s character “Mr. Chow” in the Hangover whom I find offensive. This is not to say that Asian men should never be characterized as a computer geek. I grew up in Silicon Valley so I know many of them do exist. The problem is that I rarely see Asian men in strong roles (unless they know martial arts). On the opposite end, White men are consistently put on a pedestal. When Goku of Dragonball is played by a White guy, you know something is screwy. Arguments can be made why the studios do this. They need someone of universal appeal. They need to maximize box office returns. Nevertheless, the message is still the same. The White man is desirable, and the Asian man is not. Interestingly enough, in China the White man is consistently portrayed as the bumbling idiot which I also think is wrong.

So when am I against interracial couples? I am against them when someone uses race as a deciding factor on whom they wish to be with. I believe this is a form of racism, but for some reason our society accepts it when it comes to relationships. Am I against all interracial couples? Definitely not. Am I against White men marrying Asian women? As long as they are truly in love, why shouldn’t they be together? In fact, I just wish race was no longer a factor period. One thing I have found in this brief existence of mine is that finding someone to love is very difficult. It may be the hardest thing to achieve for any human being. When we let petty things such as race narrow our field or cloud our judgment, we are doing ourselves such a disservice. For those who specifically seek out members of a particular race (and this applies to same race couples as well) if you end up with a dud, I’ll be there to play you the world’s smallest violin.

My first blog post, and why no one will read it.

Posted in Silicon Valley, we have a problem with tags , , , , , , , , , on June 22, 2013 by oneagainstdumb

So this is my first blog post. I wasn’t sure what I was going to write about, but WordPress suggested that I introduce myself and explain why I started a blog in the first place. I’ll skip the detailed introduction for now because let’s be honest. Who really cares who the hell I am? I’m simply another blogger amongst the millions already out there, but I am hoping to one day change that. So is it that I want to be famous? Not really. Am I just a loser with too much time on his hands? An argument could be made. Do I want to connect with people who think and share similar values as me? I would say so. But really, this blog is the result of the world I live in and the stupidity I see.


I came up with this title while eating at an In-n-out one day. Just like the organization “One,” which unites people to fight extreme poverty, I see myself uniting people to fight stupidity, and there is a lot of it going around.

Of course, most of this stupidity is happening right here on the internet, which brings me to the reason no one will read this post. After being on Facebook, Twitter, and Youtube, I realize now how much the cacophony of shit is drowning out clear voices and adding turds to the pile. Everyone is so intent on posting their thoughts and experiences, many seem to have forgotten that to have meaningful ones, time is needed to reflect on them. Instead, we consume as much information as possible regardless of its relevance or importance, or we post as much information as possible regardless of its relevance or importance (I really don’t care what you had for lunch today). The more distractions we give ourselves, the less we use the analytical and creative parts of our brains. And when it comes to things we don’t use, like a muscle, it grows weaker.

I believe setting aside some time to allow oneself to think is vital for the development of the mind and body. You don’t need to sit on a Yoga mat with your legs crossed and palms facing the ceiling. However, finding a quiet place where you can seclude yourself, close your eyes, and just block out the noise of the world would be ideal. Think about an engaging film, and why it captured your attention. Think about a person you passed on the street and what living his or her life would be like. Whatever you decide on, just make sure it requires your creative or reasoning abilities. Day dreaming about having sex with Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie doesn’t count.

None of what I am saying is exactly new. However, I do believe it is worth repeating. We need reminders often times. Personally, I enjoy reading and writing articles that remind me I am not the lone sane person in an insane asylum.

Do I use Facebook and Youtube? Yes, and now I am using WordPress as well. I will continue to add content to all three, and I do believe there is value in these websites. Not to pander, but I have found WordPress blogs to be much more interesting than most of the stuff I have read on facebook or watched on Youtube. We just need to moderate ourselves.

Will anybody read this post? Probably not… or not yet. There is so much material being added everyday, it is very difficult to stand out. As I continue my blog, I do hope people will read it and maybe come back to this first post. One thing I will promise to any potential readers is to not waste their time with the mundane trivialities in my life. Whatever I post, whether it be text or video, you can be certain that a lot of thought and effort went into it.


Ralph Wong